Spirituality

Sexual satisfaction didn’t suddenly appear.

“Sex is a gift from God.” You’ve heard this message throughout your whole life, but you failed to realize this gift after marrying. The past three years of marriage have been nothing but full of disappointment concerning your sexual relationship.

The message you received was that “saving yourself” for marriage would provide all the promises of the best sex. But you are only left with more negative than positive associations around sex!

To add to it all, you feel lied to and that something is wrong with you that you can’t experience this precious gift that God supposedly intended you to have.

You and your partner never talk about sex – how would you? And who else could you talk to about this problem?

Therapy allows you to explore your sexual self.

Often, what is therapeutic in and of itself in sex therapy is having a safe, informed, empathetic place to learn to talk freely about sexual questions, concerns, wants, and needs.

These are the things that maybe you’ve kept to yourself for as long as you can remember!

I often get asked, “What does comprehensive sexual health mean?” In a nutshell, sexual health needs to be addressed with all aspects of your life in mind.

Sexuality is all of who you are, mind, spirit, body, heart – not just one part. Therefore, the whole picture of your story, including what people told you, the experiences you’ve had, how you relate to people, all inform your sexual self.

Healthy sexuality requires sound and embodied teaching.

I do a lot of work with people in or who have left religious communities that rarely discuss anything relating to sex or sexuality. If there was any teaching about sex, it was often from an intensely fear-based approach.

There are reasons why the collective experience about sex is so strongly associated with fear, even though people often feel alone in their knowledge. One reason has to do with the body/soul split.

The division between the two (body and soul) comes from the influence of certain theologies informed by the idea, going back centuries, that anything of the body and pleasure was evil, and anything of the spirit or the soul was good and holy.

Integrate body and soul and overcome sexual shame.

The wrong theological perspective has seriously impacted how people feel about life in their bodies and how they see themselves as spiritual beings.

The impacts of religious, sexual shame can be far-reaching, ranging from low self-esteem to sexual pain to trauma.

I have walked with many people from various spiritual and faith perspectives and backgrounds and helped them walk away from sexual shame toward sexual integration and wholeness!

Gain the proper perspective about your sexual relationship and become one in body and soul.

Please contact me today!