Individual Sex Therapy
Georgia* is feeling so much pressure!
Georgia’s husband is always begging her to have more sex. At the beginning of their relationship, she met his needs and gave him what he wanted. Now giving in feels empty and pointless.
When Georgia is honest with herself, she’s never enjoyed sex. It’s often painful, but she’s never mentioned that to anyone. While growing up in a Christian home, Georgia’s parents told her to wait to have sex until marriage.
Besides that, the only other message she heard growing up about sex was “don’t get pregnant” and “don’t get a sexually transmitted infection.”
Deep down, Georgia feels so wrong and shameful about the fact that sex is complicated. She thinks that something is wrong with her and that she is the problem because she constantly says no to what everyone is supposed to want!
All that waiting and build-up for the wedding night when it was just disappointment and not at all what Georgia expected.
Kate* has three daughters.
Kate’s oldest, Hallie, is approaching 13, and Kate is freaking out about THE TALK. Hallie asks all kinds of questions about her body and relationships, and Kate feels so uncomfortable! She doesn’t know what to say when her daughter asks questions.
She wants to protect Hallie but feels ill-equipped to lead her daughter in these conversations because she had no role model for doing this!
Kate now knows that her parents’ best efforts were to protect her, but the silence harmed her. She has a few too many stories of harm to recount or can recall many times in vulnerable situations, with no one to talk to about it.
Kate desperately wants her daughter to have a different experience but doesn’t know what to do or where to seek advice!
Although Georgia and Kate are made-up characters, they represent women facing factual circumstances addressed through therapy with me.
Georgia gained confidence and intimacy.
In Georgia’s case, it was therapeutic to have a space to express her feelings about sex and have them normalized honestly! We discussed the systems and the internal narratives that contributed to her belief that pleasure was for everyone else but not for her. Georgia had space to express how she felt.
I referred Georgia to a sex-positive pelvic floor therapist who helped address the physical pain. Both therapies enabled Georgia to work through all the emotions of silencing and invalidating her pain for so long.
Georgia bravely stepped into actions that opened up her body, mind, heart, and spirit to explore what she wanted and needed. Feeling strong and confident within herself shifted everything regarding the newfound intimacy she experiences in her partnership!
Kate’s gained clarity, allowing for a real connection with Hallie.
Kate expressed and processed her unresolved trauma and buried feelings about the sexual assault in high school. She worked through the “good girl” messages she received and realized that she never was taught it was ok to say no or have boundaries.
As Kate was able to address these places from her past, the connections were firing! A surge of clarity came to her about what she wanted for herself and what she wanted for Hallie. Conversations with her daughter weren’t about avoiding or getting through anymore.
Even though Kate knew she couldn’t guarantee that nothing bad would ever happen to Hallie, she was able to feel less anxious because they were talking openly together about experiences Hallie was having or hearing about with her peers. They were talking about Hallie’s changing body and what to expect!
Bringing to light what felt so shameful to Kate was the very path toward connection and peace. Kate can now rest assured of giving Hallie a different story than the one that Kate received because she so bravely stepped into her own sexual story!
What will therapy be like for you?
You may resonate with the stories of Georgia and Kate, AND you have a story of your very own! It takes a lot of courage to talk about something you may have no words for or don’t know how to express. Or what affects you know but are not exactly sure why or how.
Many topics come up in my office, including male and female sexual dysfunctions, gender identity, sexual orientation, fantasies, pleasure, religious beliefs about sex, sexual shame, affairs, open relationships, and out-of-control sexual behavior.
Whatever is bothering you, I understand, and I am here to listen as you find the words.
Here’s how to get started.
First, you set up a free 20-minute phone consultation with me, and if we are a good fit, we will set up the first session, and I will send you an invitation to fill out forms and payment information.
During our first session, we will go over intake and touch on some of my primary practice policies (cancellation policies, etc.)
We keep meeting! At the beginning of therapy, I recommend meeting weekly to set a solid foundation for your work.
Don’t wait!
Be like Georgia and Kate and find the answers to what holds you back from enjoying life and making the right relationships.
Get what you need by reach out by calling (414) 909-1558 or emailing me at counseling@cheriekatt.com to schedule a free 20-minute phone consultation today!
Take a step into action toward more life, more vitality!
*Names changed to protect client confidentiality.