FAQ

I use a software system called TherapyZen. When you create an account, you can complete the forms needed before the first session and obtain information about payment, scheduling, and access to the Zoom link for our meetings!

I do offer phone sessions as well for those that prefer or when the Internet fails!.

I require a 72-hour notice before the time of our session. If you cancel after this time for any reason (sickness, dog ran away, Internet failed), it is the full rate of the session.

If it works, I will offer other alternatives for rescheduling, but only within the week of the scheduled appointment.

I am an out-of-network provider (OON). Every person has a unique plan. If you want to use your insurance, it would be good to check with your specific provider about what your coverage is for out-of-network.

I do not bill your insurance provider, but I can provide you (via TherapyZen) a superbill that you can submit to your insurance company for reimbursement.

While maintaining the greater scope of what you want from counseling and our discussions in past sessions, I want you to have the freedom to go where you need to go.

At the end of each session, I usually ask if there is a way you’d want to end the session (a hope, feeling, sitting with something that came up in talking) as a way of setting an intention for what you hope to engage outside of our time.

I use the PLISSIT (permission, limited information, specific suggestions, and intensive therapy) model often in sex therapy. For a large majority of people, coming to sex therapy starts with permission to talk about sex (P). Often there is misinformation or lack of information (and believe me, there are many!), so we explore myths surrounding sexual health (LI). Then there may be specific suggestions (SS) to expand the experience or knowledge and the space of therapy is where you get to deepen and grow in all of these (IT)!

Because I work with sexuality from a comprehensive approach, we may discuss anything from the family of origin to attachment and explore your sexual story through narrative. I am more of a coach-like therapist, and in that, I will work with you in spacious awareness of a particular action.

Most therapists (and insert any helping profession here!) often take just one course related to sexual health.

Having received thousands of hours in sex therapy training, I understand the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual realities surrounding sex, intimacy, and sexuality.

You may have heard the term comprehensive sexual health. This approach refers to the fact that sexuality is not only about an act, anatomy, or how babies are made (although this is part of it, too!). Understanding sexuality comprehensively means viewing it within the context of the greater story of your life.

For example, physiological aspects of sex can create emotional realizations (i.e., pain in sex causes you to internalize shame about your body or feelings about why your body is betraying you). Emotional realizations also can cause physiological responses (i.e., highly critical internal narrative and an experience of erectile dysfunction).

With the client’s permission, I collaborate with physical therapists or primary care providers (and various other providers) around the intersection of the physical and emotional.

To work with me, you need to have a readiness to pay attention to your own life. There is no crystal ball, so we don’t know what that will mean yet. But showing up to the process and carving out the time for yourself to speak out loud your inner truth in the presence of someone else is a powerful step.

I encourage people to find ways outside of our sessions to let what comes up metabolize further inside you. Sometimes, that can mean picking up a new practice or re-engaging an old practice (i.e., meditation, writing, art, movement, dance, etc.).

Imagine a business that is struggling. To stay afloat, the owners need to adjust how they operate but don’t know precisely how. So, they hire (read: spend money) a business coach (read: a person who has the chops to help and truly cares about the business thriving).

There is no shame in paying someone who cares when you have something to work through! You know you feel like you are drowning and need a buoy to keep you afloat. Having amazing friends or wanting amazing friends, a space like therapy with an unbiased perspective and where you are the complete focus is in and of itself transformational! Sometimes, you need a particular person to help address a specific area.

It grieves me that due to many cultural, educational, familial, religious, political narratives (add in any other system here), we carry around so much shame about something that should create fullness, joy, passion, love, and life.

Pain, struggle, grief or not, if you were born in a body, knowing and embodying your sexuality is your birthright. There is nothing quite like shame that will keep you from something meant to be yours, and I love helping people in the process of reclaiming what was theirs from the beginning!

Tough one, but I’m gonna go with water! I will go in or near water when I need a reset. Water is the most comforting and cleansing element, be it physically going back and forth between cold and hot water or the sound of lapping waves.